Deliberately choosing a title along the lines of grief and exaggeration is way beyond my emotional curriculum but putting an end to something or someone creates mental distress even for Chuck Norris.
Over the years, I always found it much harder to let go of something as opposed to someone. It is probably the fact that biologically, men care more about things than people. That is of course not true for everyone, but I think it is for me.
Attempt to fix
When things break, make a reasonable attempt to fix them (this is predominantly applicable when we are talking about “someone” as its often impossible to fix that “something”) but keep it there!
Let us delve further into what “someone” actually is prior dissecting the previous paragraph. The most obvious conclusion one may draw is that we are talking about an individual or a group of individuals, however it is much more. We could be talking about a project, a company or even a spouse that much overstayed its welcome.
We tend to feel bad when breaking up relationships, especially when being the initiator, but time is too precious to be wasted.
Moral obligations are being developed in a delusional state of mind, effectively generating a liability to thwart opportunity!
So, getting back to what “reasonable attempts to fix” are, there is no such thing as a universal checklist that will help you make sure you did enough! But there is a rule of thumb to figure it out.
- The first thing to check is commensurability. This is when you reason out if your actions (or lack thereof) are proportionate to the counterparty’s.
- Secondly, and by a fair unequivocal assessment of self, you should ensure that you have not taken advantage of that someone or generally be at fault with your preemptive considerations to let go.
- Third, check if you have registered your concern noticeably and if that someone had sufficient time to remedy the situation. (On a side note, I learnt that lecture from the most primitive person I have ever met in my life. It’s 2001, I am in the army, and my commanding officer told a fellow soldier that showing up late once is just like it never happened but showing up late twice is one too many. Of course, the guy showed up late twice and it cost him dearly).
Sure, depending on whom to let go, there are a few more points to consider, but do not over complicate matters! If you can afford running a charity, indulge yourself! Otherwise, be agile, sleek, have situational awareness and get the hell rid of it!